We live in a world of constant controversy.
Political controversy lately has my head spinning,
but it doesn't stop there.
It seems, at times, that an opinion of any sort is mocked, criticized, and ripped apart
as though we have nothing better to do with our time than to sit around and point fingers.
Becoming a mother opened my eyes to the "Mommy wars"--a controversy only magnified by almost universal access to a wide variety of social media platforms.
I certainly have opinions on my own when it comes to mothering,
and I strive to determine what will be best for our family and then act accordingly.
The need to form opinions and take action in our own lives carries with it the temptation to judge another's decisions.
But lately I've been thinking about how, whether I agree with them or not, the vast majority of mothers make decisions out of love.
There is the mother who stays home with her children because she feels that no one can teach and nurture them the way a mother can.
There is the mother who works because she wants to provide her children with a wide variety of opportunities and prepare for their future.
There is the mother who breastfeeds because she feels it is a bonding experience for mother and child and nourishes the child better than anything else.
There is the mother who formula feeds because the stresses that come with breastfeeding were negatively impacting the family.
There is the mother who co-sleeps because she wants her children to feel secure.
There is the mother who sleep-trains because she feels she is more patient and loving with her children when everyone gets a good night's rest.
There is the mother who has many children because she wants to nurture and influence as many as she can to do good in the world.
There is the mother who has only one child because she wants to focus her efforts and energies to maximize her influence on that child.
And the list goes on and on...
I am passionate about my opinions,
but I hope that as I make decisions for our family and in my mothering
I can remember that most mothers are motivated by love.
I hope I can love and appreciate others even when our viewpoints differ.
And I hope that we can be unified together in that common, encompassing love for our children that we share.