Thursday, September 10, 2020

Choosing

Today at school, Talmage's teacher asked what it means to have self-respect.
Talmage raised his hand and shared with the class something I tell them when someone has been unkind:
"I am a child of God. My worth is not dependent upon the words or actions of someone else, but is a result of my divine nature. I can choose to forgive and remember my infinite worth."

It made me smile to think of him sharing that piece of our family with his school class.
It also made me smile to think that the message had sunk in with him.
I started saying that to our kids, on occasion, after a lot of thought and conversations about the importance of learning to not take offense and how to teach that concept--and, quite frankly, how to develop it in myself because I still have a long way to go.

I am way too sensitive when it comes to what others think of me!
I finally came to a realization that when someone is unkind, I need to ask myself a question.
"Does my behavior need to change?"
If the answer is yes, then I need to do what I can to repent and change based on their criticism while forgiving any unkindness on their part.
If the answer is no, then I need to forgive the person and move forward without another thought of their criticism.

A couple of years ago, I had a powerful impression that teaching our children the principle of AGENCY is vitally important. They are not victims of their circumstances. They get to choose the course of their lives! They don't have to engage in certain behaviors just because it's their natural tendency. They don't have to act the way society expects them to. They don't have to take offense when others are unkind. THEY GET TO CHOOSE!

I don't always choose wisely.
Sometimes I choose to be offended.
Sometimes I choose to be lazy.
Sometimes I choose to lose my temper.
But always, I recognize that I am choosing, and that knowledge is incredibly empowering.

2 comments:

  1. I love this! That is such a great mantra. And it's so important to remember that we have a lot more power over ourselves than Satan would like us to believe. It's clear that your kids are learning that from you. Thanks for your thoughts!

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